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Position: 23\u00b031’11.4″N 75\u00b045’21.5″W<\/a>
\n\"Georgetown,<\/h6>\n

\u201cI fell into a burning ring of fire, I went down, down, down and the flames went higher, and it burns, burns, burns, the ring of fire.\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n

That line from Johnny Cash\u2019s song<\/a> about battling the aftereffects of a spicy burrito is only tangentially relevant to this post. And those of you who say, I know where this is going, well hang on bucko! (I can\u2019t wait to read the rest of this \u2013 ed.)<\/em><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s talk about life on board. Take an average couple that have lived together for years in a house and garden in any American suburb. One or both partners may leave early for work and come home late. Happy loving couples may spend only a handful of waking hours a day in each other\u2019s company. And that reality has formed the basis of many long-lived relationships.<\/p>\n

Bliss<\/h6>\n

It\u2019s safe to say they probably have plenty of space around to stretch out. Going down to the shops for a pint of milk or a latte is simply a short walk or drive away. They can head off to the park with the dogs anytime they like, or drop the kids at school and pick them up later as schedules dictate. In these ways rhythms and routines are established.<\/p>\n

Others find their bliss in working together full time. Carol and I have worked from home for the past seven or eight years. It\u2019s not an arrangement for everyone. We each had our own offices and for the most part it worked out. There were business trips and meetings that provided breathing room and time to appreciate each other more in absentia.<\/p>\n

Boat<\/h6>\n

When you move onto a boat, even a 40\u2019 boat, things are different. And not in ways that are immediately obvious. Sure, routines are disrupted, the dogs don\u2019t get walked, you can\u2019t pop out to the shops when you want, and business trips have become, largely, a thing of the past. Our context has changed. Our space has shrunk. And there\u2019s material risk, even deadly risk, of the kind you simply don\u2019t find in your backyard.<\/p>\n

Mooching around your house will get you killed by accident (assuming heart disease and cancer don\u2019t get to you first). Out on the high seas your decisions are a direct causal link to your morbidity, if not your mortality. Choices have consequences. Accidents at sea are not like slipping in the shower or overbalancing on a ladder, they\u2019re almost always the result of a series of poor decisions.<\/p>\n

Burrito<\/h6>\n

These then are the ingredients for rolling the perfect cruising burrito: contextual disruption, tight living quarters, high risk decision-making, inexperience, and resultant tension. A veritable ring of fire! (Oh, gee, finally \u2013 ed.)<\/em><\/p>\n

How have we been faring over the past four months? Given that context, pretty gosh darn well, actually. Do we snipe at each other? Sure. Do we get frustrated when things are, or are not, put back in the \u201cright\u201d place? You bet. Does decision-making lead to hand waving and exasperation? Naturally. Are we still speaking? Yes we are. Is the boat still afloat? It is. Have we found ways of making space for each other? We have.<\/p>\n

Bumps<\/h6>\n

Is there a secret to making all this work? Not really. You just have to be committed enough to each other and continually remind yourselves that every day is an opportunity to learn something new. To learn something new about each other, about yourself, about sailing, about the boat and its environment. Every day we push the envelope a little further. When we push a bit harder, road blocks become speed-bumps and mountains become sand dunes. It\u2019s a wonderful thing \u2013 especially with a partner.<\/p>\n

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